Archive for July, 2010

The beautiful Victoria Glass

Most parents don’t get to pick their children….in the drag world you do and I picked one hell of a daughter!!!  On a day when my real mother goes in to surgery to take care of a potentially cancerous problem I began reflecting and thinking how lucky I am.  I am lucky to have my real family behind me (as you may have read in other posts), but I am also very lucky to have my chosen family – the Haus of Coxxx…….at the forefront of that group is my daughter Victoria Glass

Who would have known when I was sitting at a bar inviting the bartender to my show one January Saturday that I would end up having such a great friend and drag daughter.  After coming to my show that night the spark was lit in her eyes again, since she had done drag before, and she surprised me a week later by showing up to my show again – but this time IN DRAG!!

Since then she has grown as a performer and, I believe, as a person!  We perform together every chance we get but she has carved her own name for herself in the community as well – – – and I couldn’t be prouder…….She loves performing, just like me, and would do ANYTHING to help a friend out.  Another thing that I love about her is that she believes that there is always something to learn and is open to criticism and pointers from everyone……More performers should be like her.  A Big heart!  and an AMAZING talent!

This last weekend she entered the Miss San Francisco Gold Rush pageant and showed those girls what a Coxxx girl can do….her gowns were amazing, her talent fierce and her heart shone through!!!!  In the end she didn’t win but she did win Miss Congeniality!!!!  She was the crowd favorite!!!  I am proud!

So to wrap this up I just want to say I love her!  She shows me every day what it means to be family, to be there for each other, to have a friend!  I hope each of you have someone in your life as special as Miss Victoria Glass!!!!

This Haus is a Home!

I have to say that I am the luckiest performer in the grand city of San Francisco.  There are many that have there own show, have fame, stardom, tour around the world etc……but what I have is so much more special!  I have the Haus of Coxxx!  This family that I have formed is like no other!  I have never in my life seen a group of people care for one another like this crazy bunch.  They truly act like siblings!

When I cam back to performing I had a small handful of people that supported me from the start – now that has turned in to over 35 members and they are not just supporters – they are family!!!

We ask the world to redefine what a family is.  Most think it is a mother and father, 2.2 kids and a picket fence.  Mine includes a few drag queens, some beautiful girls and some of the great guys in the world!

To all of my children, my sisters and my nieces – I LOVE YOU and THANK YOU for everything!  This Haus if HOME for me!

My mom

So, in my ramblings before I have never spoken about my real mom.  She is one of the most amazing people I have ever met.  She was raised a devout christian woman with very strong convictions who then went on to train to become a missionary and became a nurse.  She also raised kids as a single mother……Amazing yes????  Well it gets better….

When I first came out of the closet it was after my father had passed away and life was hard for her….she lost the only man she had ever loved and in the same period realized her youngest son was gay.  To a christian woman some may have considered this death of one of her children.  I won’t deny that the first year or so of my being out were a struggle for my mom, but she rallied….She told me one day that she loved me no matter what and that she wanted to be part of my life.

Now – she supports my drag career, embraces my friends, boy friends, partners and drag daughter alike!  She even has been busily fashioning jewelry for me to wear at upcoming events!!

What caused me to write this is that last week I was faced with my mother’s mortality.  Almost 10 years after my father passed away my mom was told by the doctor that she may have cancer.  This caused so many emotions to go through me……I couldn’t imagine a world with out her here.  I know one day that she may not be but I just can’t…..

Today we found out that she was cancer free and you can’t imagine my excitement.  She has stood by me through things that none of you can imagine….sure we have had our differences but I LOVE HER SO MUCH.

I hope all of you have an amazing person in your life like I do!!!  Mom I love you!!


You know that feeling when you were a kid……..when  you put your arms out and spin as fast as you can until you fall down??  That feeling has been compared to the feeling of falling in love, to feeling hurt or in most cases just plain being dizzy.  I call that feeling – – – –  my life!

Being a performer and trying to have a life of some normalcy can have its challenges.  Like writing this blog for instance.  When I started writing in it I thought I would write something interesting every day or at least every couple days….well then life caught up with me.  So many things have happened since the world of blogging has seen me — the Haus of Coxxx has grown, I have performed a million times, I have gained new friends (lost some too), Haus members have competed and won a few titles, and sooo much more.  To most people reading this it probably seems like I am insane for doing so much, and at times I must agree, however I find it very fruitful.

So – I don’t want to babble here forever this foggy San Francisco morning……but I will say that I will try to be better about blogging.  Sometimes I have some pretty interesting thought come in to this crazy brain of mine and I will feel the need to share it…….so…..until then – Have a fantastic day and remember… one has control of your destiny – but you!